"If we see that we have no mindfulness, that we rarely refrain, that we have little well-being, that is not confusion, that's the beginning of clarity." Pema Chodron from When Things Fall Apart
This is a central irony. To start cleaning up a mess you have to notice that you have made one. Just noticing the problem is the first step toward cleaning it up. While this may be deeply embarrassing when it happens, it happens to all of us, over and over again. That's why a sense of humor is also important ;--) and hopefully buckets of compassion from yourself and those around you.
When Things Fall Apart, Heart Advice for Difficult Times
by Pema Chodron.
The book is available for purchase here on the website: When Things Fall Apart